Today`s world is full of suffering and cruelty. From birth, we are trained to accept the rules of society as “as they are,” but consent to those rules prevents us from becoming our true self. But there`s another way of life. If we replace the old agreements with four simple new agreements, we can break away from the old rules and find peace and happiness. These chords are: 1) Use your words flawlessly. 2) Don`t take anything in person. 3) Don`t make assumptions. 4) Always do your best. This agreement is also a simple concept, but it will allow the other three agreements to become more ingrained and effective. Finally, the first three chords can only really work if you do your best. Unless we still have all these old agreements lying around. We must beat them and reject them.
How can we dismantle those old agreements that have created unnecessary suffering in our lives? How can we get rid of the old agreements? Use this exercise to identify some steps you can take to remove some of the old agreements that will hold you. Making assumptions and taking things in person (two and three chords) goes hand in hand, leading to gossip, conflict and suffering. Ruiz says that to find personal joy, you have to break all the agreements of fear imposed by society that currently bind you. And it proposes four agreements that help you do so: if we want a life of joy, we must break these harmful agreements that promote suffering and failure. But how? We feel powerless because the creation and respect of all these negative agreements have sucked our personal power. Everything we accept as “as it is” is an agreement. But too many of these agreements are hurting ourselves and others. Think, for example, of the teenager who is starving to adapt. Think of someone who stays in an unhappy relationship because that`s all they know. Ruiz says that to break the old agreements that will be held by us, we have a few options: “The Four Agreements” have changed me. When I pledged to accept these agreements, I swear that the trees were greener, that the sun was shining and that I felt nothing but love for all and everything. Don`t let it be distorted – I`ve loved it many times when I`ve shaped these habits, and I continue to do so.
They could fall, too. But be patient with yourself. There`s a lot of out there to attack you. Don`t go after me, boo. It is the practice that makes the master. You will be a master in the formation of these new habits when you practice. Don Miguel Ruiz drops gems for Daaays in the form of four chords that I call habits. He points out that we have been domesticated by parents/guardians, schools, religion, their peers, advertising, etc. And it is because of this domestication that we suffer, ourselves, in a negative way, and we create and complicate self-limiting convictions. To get rid of this domestication, it is necessary to create new habits or new arrangements. First, you need to be aware of the agreements you need to make. These first two agreements free you from many bad arrangements that have disrupted your life.
Finally, carefree words, combined with very ardent people, will inevitably bring drama. The fourth chord allows you to practice all the other chords and make it a habit. If you don`t make a deal, you don`t sweat it. All right. Restart. And again. Until it is rooted in who you are. There are three ways to break with our old bad agreements: this first agreement invites us to be “irreprozens” with our words. That is the agreement on which all the other agreements are based.
Just staying in this agreement can change your life. The main function of the brain is to dream – and it dreams 24 hours a day.